Month: September 2010

I Am Angry…. Now What?

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What are some things that absolutely get under your skin and you can feel anger build within you until you feel as though you will pop or cry?   Number one on my list is anyone that mistreats one of my children.  I get incredibly upset, want to lash out, usually cry that one of my children hurts.  But really, what good will this do other than make me feel better for a few minutes?  I believe the key to making anger productive is to first take some deep breaths and pray about it before you say or do things you will regret.  Realize that your children are watching how you handle things when you are upset.  Do you want to show them that it is okay to blow a gasket so that as they grow into adults they just do what Mommy and Daddy did?  Or do you want to show them that there is a stern way to handle the situation without demeaning yourself, your character, or your dignity.  Will the situation always get resolved and work out wonderfully?  Of course not!  People who are antagonizing you are often not of good character themselves. 

What we do and what comes out of our mouths is what we are responsible for.  If we use our anger to lash out in a way that causes more damage to the situation, then it becomes sin.   Proverbs 29:11 says, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”  God meant for us to have feelings of anger in order to use it as a passion for things such as aiding others in realizing a wrong in their lives or a deviation from God’s path.   But it should also be done in love in order to show the other person the wrong that was done while loving them at the same time.  Ephesians 4:26–27  says, “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”  We are instructed to let revenge be handled by God.  Romans 12:19 tells us, ” Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.   God is a God of love for EVERYONE.  We are to be a living example of that love in all that we do.  Ephesians 4:31–32 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.   Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

This is perhaps one of the hardest lessons to learn, but God never promised easy!

So here are a few other of my pet peeves that I DAILY try to work through so as not to let it ruin my day:

(1)   People in authority who will not admit that they are wrong even if it is at risk of injury to others.

(2)  Rude people who do things such as walk in your path forcing you out of the way, interrupt you, or get onto an elevator blocking the way way of others trying to get off.

(3)  People who drive recklessly – and especially while I have my children in the car and they are endangered by the driving of these people.

(4)  People who report inaccuracies or just lie about others for self gain.

(5)  People who will talk behind your back about you and make accusations, but never to your face – even if you ask to speak with them.

These are just a few things that people do that I have a really hard time with at times and do a lot of praying about, no matter how big or small they seem.  But through every situation, as long as I conduct myself in a Christian manner and do what I know God would want me to do, it is I who is blessed tenfold in the end and I pray for those who perturb me as well.  Thank God for His mercy and grace for I would never be able to deal with these situations or people any other way!  And I know  that I am the one who is in the wrong at times as well, and I would rather someone treat me with love to correct me rather than with anger.  And it is only with God that this can be accomplished for through His love we can do anything.  Ephesians 4:15 “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.”